Comments on: The Real Reason I Don’t Drop Everything to Visit Your Blog http://www.blogherald.com/2007/04/05/the-real-reason-i-don%e2%80%99t-drop-everything-to-visit-your-blog/ The leading source of news covering social media and the blogosphere. Mon, 13 Feb 2012 09:18:59 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Bonnie http://www.blogherald.com/2007/04/05/the-real-reason-i-don%e2%80%99t-drop-everything-to-visit-your-blog/comment-page-1/#comment-179990 Bonnie Mon, 09 Apr 2007 22:20:35 +0000 http://www.blogherald.com/2007/04/04/the-real-reason-i-don%e2%80%99t-drop-everything-to-visit-your-blog/#comment-179990 Great article, Liz! Maybe all the "Visit my blog; tell me what to do" requests are related to the "On Demand" world today's generation are growing up in. It seems a lot of people want (and expect) immediate results with very little effort, and in minimum time. Time? Energy? Devotion? Heck no... they just want everything handed to them, like Mommy and Daddy and teachers and coaches and so on... have done all their lives. Oops! I got off on a bit of a tangent there. Sorry! Back to your point...relationships are the "magic ingredient" that the best bloggers cherish, and work hard to create and maintain. Personally, it's why I got hooked on blogging. I love the sense of community, of sharing experiences and exchanging ideas with other bloggers as well as with visitors to my blog. It's sad that so many people overlook this aspect of blogging. They don't know what they're missing! Thank you, Liz! Great article, Liz!

Maybe all the “Visit my blog; tell me what to do” requests are related to the “On Demand” world today’s generation are growing up in. It seems a lot of people want (and expect) immediate results with very little effort, and in minimum time.

Time? Energy? Devotion? Heck no… they just want everything handed to them, like Mommy and Daddy and teachers and coaches and so on… have done all their lives.

Oops! I got off on a bit of a tangent there. Sorry!

Back to your point…relationships are the “magic ingredient” that the best bloggers cherish, and work hard to create and maintain. Personally, it’s why I got hooked on blogging. I love the sense of community, of sharing experiences and exchanging ideas with other bloggers as well as with visitors to my blog.

It’s sad that so many people overlook this aspect of blogging. They don’t know what they’re missing!

Thank you, Liz!

]]> By: Liz Strauss http://www.blogherald.com/2007/04/05/the-real-reason-i-don%e2%80%99t-drop-everything-to-visit-your-blog/comment-page-1/#comment-179602 Liz Strauss Sat, 07 Apr 2007 18:53:45 +0000 http://www.blogherald.com/2007/04/04/the-real-reason-i-don%e2%80%99t-drop-everything-to-visit-your-blog/#comment-179602 Hi Shailesh ! Like-minded people are found in groups. Look for blogs that REALLY appeal to you. Come visit my blog and follow some folks home. :) I'm delighted that anything I do is helpful. YEA!! Hi Shailesh !
Like-minded people are found in groups. Look for blogs that REALLY appeal to you. Come visit my blog and follow some folks home. :)
I’m delighted that anything I do is helpful. YEA!!

]]> By: Liz Strauss http://www.blogherald.com/2007/04/05/the-real-reason-i-don%e2%80%99t-drop-everything-to-visit-your-blog/comment-page-1/#comment-179601 Liz Strauss Sat, 07 Apr 2007 18:49:24 +0000 http://www.blogherald.com/2007/04/04/the-real-reason-i-don%e2%80%99t-drop-everything-to-visit-your-blog/#comment-179601 Hi (not so) AngryToxicologist, Some folks learn to think before they type. Some folks never learn to give as well as receive. You are so right. I think your observation is right on the money. :) Hi (not so) AngryToxicologist,
Some folks learn to think before they type. Some folks never learn to give as well as receive. You are so right. I think your observation is right on the money. :)

]]> By: Liz Strauss http://www.blogherald.com/2007/04/05/the-real-reason-i-don%e2%80%99t-drop-everything-to-visit-your-blog/comment-page-1/#comment-179599 Liz Strauss Sat, 07 Apr 2007 18:38:17 +0000 http://www.blogherald.com/2007/04/04/the-real-reason-i-don%e2%80%99t-drop-everything-to-visit-your-blog/#comment-179599 Hi Char! We come to blogging thinking it's about the writing. Then the people show up and we figure out what it's really about. :) Relationships with people like you make the writing work worth it. Liz Hi Char!
We come to blogging thinking it’s about the writing. Then the people show up and we figure out what it’s really about. :)

Relationships with people like you make the writing work worth it.
Liz

]]> By: Shailesh Ghimire http://www.blogherald.com/2007/04/05/the-real-reason-i-don%e2%80%99t-drop-everything-to-visit-your-blog/comment-page-1/#comment-179455 Shailesh Ghimire Fri, 06 Apr 2007 20:29:32 +0000 http://www.blogherald.com/2007/04/04/the-real-reason-i-don%e2%80%99t-drop-everything-to-visit-your-blog/#comment-179455 So true! I've been blogging for 2 years and only a few visitors. Now that my business needs a boost I've been looking at blogging and I've really enjoyed it. I'm on a mission to meet like minded people and develop my network so my blog can take the next step! Thanks Liz for your help! Shailesh So true!

I’ve been blogging for 2 years and only a few visitors. Now that my business needs a boost I’ve been looking at blogging and I’ve really enjoyed it. I’m on a mission to meet like minded people and develop my network so my blog can take the next step!

Thanks Liz for your help!
Shailesh

]]> By: AngryToxicologist http://www.blogherald.com/2007/04/05/the-real-reason-i-don%e2%80%99t-drop-everything-to-visit-your-blog/comment-page-1/#comment-179410 AngryToxicologist Fri, 06 Apr 2007 16:05:30 +0000 http://www.blogherald.com/2007/04/04/the-real-reason-i-don%e2%80%99t-drop-everything-to-visit-your-blog/#comment-179410 So true. It's interesting how so many people drop all social skills when they get on the web. It's just like grammer, it changes but you just can't leave it behind! So true. It’s interesting how so many people drop all social skills when they get on the web. It’s just like grammer, it changes but you just can’t leave it behind!

]]> By: Char http://www.blogherald.com/2007/04/05/the-real-reason-i-don%e2%80%99t-drop-everything-to-visit-your-blog/comment-page-1/#comment-179247 Char Fri, 06 Apr 2007 11:46:48 +0000 http://www.blogherald.com/2007/04/04/the-real-reason-i-don%e2%80%99t-drop-everything-to-visit-your-blog/#comment-179247 Liz, By far the best thing I have gotten from blogging is the relationships. The relationships are developed one at a time, slowly and with care. Thanks for being such a good teacher of this principle. Liz,
By far the best thing I have gotten from blogging is the relationships. The relationships are developed one at a time, slowly and with care.

Thanks for being such a good teacher of this principle.

]]> By: Liz Strauss http://www.blogherald.com/2007/04/05/the-real-reason-i-don%e2%80%99t-drop-everything-to-visit-your-blog/comment-page-1/#comment-179155 Liz Strauss Fri, 06 Apr 2007 06:21:09 +0000 http://www.blogherald.com/2007/04/04/the-real-reason-i-don%e2%80%99t-drop-everything-to-visit-your-blog/#comment-179155 Hi Jhay! I am so with you about the spamming. That's got nothing to do with relatiosnhips. :) Hi Jhay!
I am so with you about the spamming. That’s got nothing to do with relatiosnhips. :)

]]> By: jhay http://www.blogherald.com/2007/04/05/the-real-reason-i-don%e2%80%99t-drop-everything-to-visit-your-blog/comment-page-1/#comment-179138 jhay Fri, 06 Apr 2007 03:37:49 +0000 http://www.blogherald.com/2007/04/04/the-real-reason-i-don%e2%80%99t-drop-everything-to-visit-your-blog/#comment-179138 So let's fire up Twitter and our IMs and get to know each other better. Just no spamming please. :D So let’s fire up Twitter and our IMs and get to know each other better. Just no spamming please. :D

]]> By: Liz Strauss http://www.blogherald.com/2007/04/05/the-real-reason-i-don%e2%80%99t-drop-everything-to-visit-your-blog/comment-page-1/#comment-179131 Liz Strauss Fri, 06 Apr 2007 01:14:21 +0000 http://www.blogherald.com/2007/04/04/the-real-reason-i-don%e2%80%99t-drop-everything-to-visit-your-blog/#comment-179131 Alister, I sure hope you know that the feeling is deeply mutual. You've always been there when I've needed a friend and I'll always return that favor in any way that I am able. You're a hero. Liz Alister,
I sure hope you know that the feeling is deeply mutual. You’ve always been there when I’ve needed a friend and I’ll always return that favor in any way that I am able.

You’re a hero.
Liz

]]> By: Liz Strauss http://www.blogherald.com/2007/04/05/the-real-reason-i-don%e2%80%99t-drop-everything-to-visit-your-blog/comment-page-1/#comment-179129 Liz Strauss Fri, 06 Apr 2007 01:12:42 +0000 http://www.blogherald.com/2007/04/04/the-real-reason-i-don%e2%80%99t-drop-everything-to-visit-your-blog/#comment-179129 Hi Luis Alister helped me figure out how to answer such emails cheerfully without stealing time from where I should really be placing it. For that I am grateful. I'm with you. It doesn't say much for a blog or a blogger who asks a practical stranger to drop things and run over . . . it says even less when I take a peek and see that the person requesting such advice is a business blogger who really should know better if he or she is supposed to be in business, wouldn't you think? Liz Hi Luis
Alister helped me figure out how to answer such emails cheerfully without stealing time from where I should really be placing it. For that I am grateful. I’m with you. It doesn’t say much for a blog or a blogger who asks a practical stranger to drop things and run over . . . it says even less when I take a peek and see that the person requesting such advice is a business blogger who really should know better if he or she is supposed to be in business, wouldn’t you think?

Liz

]]> By: Liz Strauss http://www.blogherald.com/2007/04/05/the-real-reason-i-don%e2%80%99t-drop-everything-to-visit-your-blog/comment-page-1/#comment-179128 Liz Strauss Fri, 06 Apr 2007 01:08:08 +0000 http://www.blogherald.com/2007/04/04/the-real-reason-i-don%e2%80%99t-drop-everything-to-visit-your-blog/#comment-179128 Hi Egntech, I follow your blog and your comments and know that you take this seriously. Thank you. :) Hi Egntech,
I follow your blog and your comments and know that you take this seriously. Thank you. :)

]]> By: Alister Cameron // Blogologist http://www.blogherald.com/2007/04/05/the-real-reason-i-don%e2%80%99t-drop-everything-to-visit-your-blog/comment-page-1/#comment-179123 Alister Cameron // Blogologist Fri, 06 Apr 2007 00:14:27 +0000 http://www.blogherald.com/2007/04/04/the-real-reason-i-don%e2%80%99t-drop-everything-to-visit-your-blog/#comment-179123 Thanks for the "generous column inches" devoted to my post, Liz. One of the highlights for me of "working the relationships" has been meeting you. In a (blogging) world of (too many) relationally retarded recluses you're out there teaching us all what "high touch" really looks like online. I'm a fan :) -Alister Thanks for the “generous column inches” devoted to my post, Liz.

One of the highlights for me of “working the relationships” has been meeting you. In a (blogging) world of (too many) relationally retarded recluses you’re out there teaching us all what “high touch” really looks like online.

I’m a fan :)

-Alister

]]> By: Luis http://www.blogherald.com/2007/04/05/the-real-reason-i-don%e2%80%99t-drop-everything-to-visit-your-blog/comment-page-1/#comment-179121 Luis Thu, 05 Apr 2007 23:55:52 +0000 http://www.blogherald.com/2007/04/04/the-real-reason-i-don%e2%80%99t-drop-everything-to-visit-your-blog/#comment-179121 <i>I’m a relationship blogger. If you’d like me come over as a friend and do things that friends might do, I think it would great if we were friends before you invite me first. That just seems to me the way it should work.</i> I really love this point. A straight up request to a practical stranger, IMO, doesn't say much about you or your blog, except that you're itching for attention. The only time this works, is like Alister mentioned, "you're happy to pull out the checkbook." An insightful comment or an excerpt on a pingback / trackback, on the other hand, indicates that you actually read the post you commented on. This glimpse into your mind, so to speak, could be what makes them interested in what your other thoughts are. I’m a relationship blogger. If you’d like me come over as a friend and do things that friends might do, I think it would great if we were friends before you invite me first. That just seems to me the way it should work.

I really love this point. A straight up request to a practical stranger, IMO, doesn’t say much about you or your blog, except that you’re itching for attention. The only time this works, is like Alister mentioned, “you’re happy to pull out the checkbook.”

An insightful comment or an excerpt on a pingback / trackback, on the other hand, indicates that you actually read the post you commented on. This glimpse into your mind, so to speak, could be what makes them interested in what your other thoughts are.

]]> By: engtech http://www.blogherald.com/2007/04/05/the-real-reason-i-don%e2%80%99t-drop-everything-to-visit-your-blog/comment-page-1/#comment-179120 engtech Thu, 05 Apr 2007 23:36:48 +0000 http://www.blogherald.com/2007/04/04/the-real-reason-i-don%e2%80%99t-drop-everything-to-visit-your-blog/#comment-179120 so very true. so very true.

]]> By: Liz Strauss http://www.blogherald.com/2007/04/05/the-real-reason-i-don%e2%80%99t-drop-everything-to-visit-your-blog/comment-page-1/#comment-179098 Liz Strauss Thu, 05 Apr 2007 20:52:40 +0000 http://www.blogherald.com/2007/04/04/the-real-reason-i-don%e2%80%99t-drop-everything-to-visit-your-blog/#comment-179098 Hi Evden, Thank you! Hi Evden,
Thank you!

]]> By: evden eve nakliyat http://www.blogherald.com/2007/04/05/the-real-reason-i-don%e2%80%99t-drop-everything-to-visit-your-blog/comment-page-1/#comment-179097 evden eve nakliyat Thu, 05 Apr 2007 20:49:02 +0000 http://www.blogherald.com/2007/04/04/the-real-reason-i-don%e2%80%99t-drop-everything-to-visit-your-blog/#comment-179097 very nice informations.thank you very much.and ver nice blog i will come here all the time.thankss... very nice informations.thank you very much.and ver nice blog i will come here all the time.thankss…

]]> By: Liz Strauss http://www.blogherald.com/2007/04/05/the-real-reason-i-don%e2%80%99t-drop-everything-to-visit-your-blog/comment-page-1/#comment-179084 Liz Strauss Thu, 05 Apr 2007 17:48:46 +0000 http://www.blogherald.com/2007/04/04/the-real-reason-i-don%e2%80%99t-drop-everything-to-visit-your-blog/#comment-179084 Hi Anne, Yes, I'm with you all the way. A relationship is a relationship. Either you're in or you're not. Respect doesn't go one way. I like your use of the word <i> invest </i> that's what it takes an investment of who you are. Liz Hi Anne,
Yes, I’m with you all the way. A relationship is a relationship. Either you’re in or you’re not. Respect doesn’t go one way. I like your use of the word invest that’s what it takes an investment of who you are.
Liz

]]> By: Liz Strauss http://www.blogherald.com/2007/04/05/the-real-reason-i-don%e2%80%99t-drop-everything-to-visit-your-blog/comment-page-1/#comment-179083 Liz Strauss Thu, 05 Apr 2007 17:46:10 +0000 http://www.blogherald.com/2007/04/04/the-real-reason-i-don%e2%80%99t-drop-everything-to-visit-your-blog/#comment-179083 Hi Andrew! Helping people comes so naturally to me that it's really hard to say "no," when folks ask or need. Yet, I only have so much time for my family and friends, and for my work that when people I don't know ask with expectation in their request, it bothers me. It's as if they have forgotten I'm a person too, a person who can make a choice to help and that help is generous, not required. Thank you, Andrew, for letting me know you face the same thoughts sometimes. Liz Hi Andrew!
Helping people comes so naturally to me that it’s really hard to say “no,” when folks ask or need. Yet, I only have so much time for my family and friends, and for my work that when people I don’t know ask with expectation in their request, it bothers me. It’s as if they have forgotten I’m a person too, a person who can make a choice to help and that help is generous, not required.

Thank you, Andrew, for letting me know you face the same thoughts sometimes.
Liz

]]> By: Anne Helmond http://www.blogherald.com/2007/04/05/the-real-reason-i-don%e2%80%99t-drop-everything-to-visit-your-blog/comment-page-1/#comment-179080 Anne Helmond Thu, 05 Apr 2007 17:31:53 +0000 http://www.blogherald.com/2007/04/04/the-real-reason-i-don%e2%80%99t-drop-everything-to-visit-your-blog/#comment-179080 A great post summing up what I consider essential to blogging: relationships, or networks, or however you want to call them. It takes time, energy and devotion to invest in such relationships just like regular ones. A great post summing up what I consider essential to blogging: relationships, or networks, or however you want to call them. It takes time, energy and devotion to invest in such relationships just like regular ones.

]]> By: Andrew Flusche http://www.blogherald.com/2007/04/05/the-real-reason-i-don%e2%80%99t-drop-everything-to-visit-your-blog/comment-page-1/#comment-179079 Andrew Flusche Thu, 05 Apr 2007 17:30:49 +0000 http://www.blogherald.com/2007/04/04/the-real-reason-i-don%e2%80%99t-drop-everything-to-visit-your-blog/#comment-179079 Liz, Incredibly insightful and inspiring as always. Thanks for the great post! I was just thinking about this earlier today. A friend asked me to mention his company's promotion on my blog. I did just that. Then I thought about what made him different from the emails I get from people saying "check out my blog and let your readers knows." I have a relationship with him. We've never met "in person," but we've blogged about each other, emailed, and the like. I don't hesitate to help him out, because it's a mutual relationship. Sorry for the rant.... Great post! Take care, Andrew Liz,

Incredibly insightful and inspiring as always. Thanks for the great post!

I was just thinking about this earlier today. A friend asked me to mention his company’s promotion on my blog. I did just that. Then I thought about what made him different from the emails I get from people saying “check out my blog and let your readers knows.” I have a relationship with him. We’ve never met “in person,” but we’ve blogged about each other, emailed, and the like. I don’t hesitate to help him out, because it’s a mutual relationship.

Sorry for the rant…. Great post!

Take care,
Andrew

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